MY STORY

My entire career happened inside masculine structures. Eleven years in construction. Insurance, agribusiness, ag production. At tables where the executives' wives didn't work.  In rooms where the top leadership didn't want to understand what it took to lead as a woman — let alone as a single mom.

So I played the part. Quick to react. Quick to say yes. Pleasing. Overworking. Overstriving. Achieve, achieve, achieve — because somewhere along the way I learned I had to prove I deserved to be in the room at all.

It cost me my life force. The performance was exhausting — adrenaline always on, always heightened. I traded my energy for a belonging that wasn't even real.

It cost me my voice. Please. Prove. Don't speak up, or you'll lose your position. I traded my voice for a security that was never guaranteed.

It cost me my freedom. Don't give opinions. Do what they ask. Jump higher than they ask. My world revolved around being whatever they needed — professionally and personally. It cost me time with my family, and real presence with the people I loved. I was living in the doing, not the being I was meant to be. I traded my freedom for a safety that was false.

There was a defining moment - sitting at my desk reflecting on months of my gut screaming, of physical agony, crying on my way to work - and a multitude of red flags.  What I was doing to maintain appearances and the face of a good leader, was so physically heavy and exhausting.  And I could not choke down the "kool-aid" anymore.  My entire being was screaming "what are you even doing!". 

 That's the moment I understood: I had built an entire identity inside a structure that was never going to hold me. And I was the only one who could take it apart.

IN THE CAGE WITH THE KEY

After I left corporate, I spent a tremendous amount of time learning everything I could about identity, performance, and what this cage was.  Why was my body screaming at me?  Why did I feel such agony?  This wasn't the first time I left corporate and not my first go around with burn out either.  But it FELT vastly different.  This kind of pain was unfamiliar.  The exhaustion and constant looping in my mind were a new level.

What I discovered is that every time I stepped deeper in that cage, I stepped farther from myself.  From who I really was.  

My body screaming at me...  the agony...  the painful looping...
Were signals of self-betrayal. Of self-abandonment.

That's what I needed to fully understand to go deep enough within me to realize how awful that is.  Not to someone else...to me.  And to make a choice for myself of how to move forward - because I was hurting myself in the worst way.

MY WORK AND DEVOTION

I help women who built their identity around career, achievement, and expectations finally excavate who they truly are — and live from that place. 

Putting an end to performance, to people pleasing, to self-abandonment and begin LIVING.  Deeply, joyfully living.

Right now, the rules are changing underneath all of us. The structures you spent years learning to succeed inside — the ones that told you exactly how to earn your place — are shifting, and a lot of women are feeling that as a second kind of trapped: caged by a system, and lost now that the system itself is no longer steady. My work isn't about teaching you to perform better inside a structure that's already dissolving. It's about returning you to your natural state — who you are underneath everything you built to survive the life you thought you had to live.

This isn't symptom-level coaching. I don't hand you a framework and send you back into the same structure with better coping tools. I work at the root — the shadow, the trauma, the things your body has been holding that your mind hasn't caught up to yet.  The deepest of why you do what you do.  I use astrology and Human Design as precise maps of who you actually are, alongside my own intuition, built over years of doing this work on myself first.

People feel safe with me because I hear what they cannot hear in themselves, and I reflect it back without flinching. That's not a technique. It's something I was built with — and it's proven an invaluable gift to me and my clients.